September 28, 2016

Adoption: Where are we at in the process?

"So, where are you guys at in the adoption process?"

Lately, we've gotten a lot of questions like this!

Well, the paperwork and interviews are done. The home study is done, too. And now we are waiting for an expectant mother to choose us to be her baby’s family!

We’ll most likely bring our baby home from the hospital … what an exciting day that will be! We have requested an open adoption, which is how most domestic infant adoptions are done these days. What this means is that the expectant mother will choose us, and we’ll keep in touch either through letters/photos or regular in-person visits. Research has shown that keeping this communication open and having a relationship with the birth family is really beneficial to kids … and we are all about what is best for our son or daughter!

We know that open adoption may feel a little scary, especially if you don't know much about it. But let us assure you that open adoption is NOT co-parenting. The birth parent(s) surrender their parental rights in court one month after the baby is placed with us (this is law in Michigan). After that time, we will be our baby’s legal parents and make all decisions regarding their health, education, discipline, welfare, etc.

If you have any questions, we are more than happy to talk about these next steps in our journey. But honestly, we probably won’t have much by way of updates until we are matched with an expectant mother and bring our baby home!

This waiting period is a lot like a pregnancy, except that we have no idea how long it will last! We could be chosen next week, or it could take several years for the right expectant mother to come along. In the meantime, your support and prayers mean the world to us. We're excited about growing our family, and we know you all will welcome our baby with open arms when he or she finally arrives!

With love,

Laurel and Dave

P.S. In case you missed the news, we now have TWO "fur babies" at home. Say hello to our rescue Chihuahua mix, Bella!